Gratitude

The movie project I am collaborating on - The Difference - has its focus this month on gratitude. Here is a quote by Geraldine P. Anderson: "There isn't a word in the English language with more magic in it than the word gratitude. Love makes fertile the soil for things to blossom and to grow, and love begins with gratitude."


My buddy in a workshop over the weekend was a man who had lost his leg 13 years ago. As far as I can think all my friends are totally able-bodied and it was quite an experience to see first hand what it's like to have only one leg. It certainly focussed my attention on the fact that I have two and never think about it much. I'm so grateful for my legs and to him for this experience.


This morning I noticed that my favourite check-out lady at the supermarket was back after what seemed like a long absence. She told me she'd been visiting family in Sri Lanka, about all the violence and how people didn't go out at night any more because they were afraid. I'm going out to dinner tonight, and I'm going out without fear. I didn't appreciate that before but I do now.


Here is some gratitude tapping for you:


Even though I feel the opposite of grateful, I choose to find something to be grateful for.
Even though I focus on what I don’t have, I now choose to focus on what I do have.
Even though I forget to be grateful, I choose to spend each moment in gratitude.
I choose to acknowledge what I have.
I choose to give thanks for each gift I receive.
I choose to recognise every person and every situation in my life as a gift.
I choose to offer thanks for all the positive features of my life.
I choose to let people (partners, children, relatives, boss, employees, colleagues, friends, service people) know I am grateful for who they are, how they are, and what they do.
Even though I can’t find much to be grateful for, I choose to look deeper.
Even though I think I’m on my own, I choose to express gratitude to all those who support me in different ways.
Even though I forget to appreciate others, I choose to remember on a daily basis.
Even though my life appears to be in lack, I choose to always find a point of gratitude.
I choose to express appreciation continuously.
I choose to live in a constant state of gratitude.
I choose to express my gratitude at every opportunity.



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Hating our body

I met a middle-aged woman at a business meeting the other day. It was a hot day and the air conditioning wasn't working. She started to complain about how she needed to scrape her hair back in a pony tail. She then detailed all the problems she had with her hair, finally ending up saying she hated it and that it had been the bane of her existence all her life.

I was fascinated by this - wow, how much energy had she spent during her life on hating herself. I commented that many people in the world had wild fuzzy hair including our neighbours in PNG. She countered this by saying that their hair was evenly fuzzy while hers stuck out all over the place. She was simply determined that I get the message that her hair was wrong, and finally told me she'd been called scarecrow at school. That explained a lot!

In our society the ideas we hold about body can be so damaging. It can be hard to recognise that if we hate a part of ourselves or equally if we hate a symptom that our body is manifesting then we are hating ourselves. So make a list of all the things you mildly dislike to actively hate about yourself and start to tap.

Even though I hate _______(body part or symptom), I'm willing to learn to love myself.
Even though I don't like _______, I open myself to loving all of me.
Even though I wish I didn't have _______, I choose to love and accept my whole body.

If you were teased at home or school, or anywhere else for that matter, for a particular attribute tap on the incidents and the associated feelings.

Even though the other kids called me scarecrow (for example), I forgive them as well as myself for taking it personally.
Even though I felt humiliated when the kids called me scarecrow, I choose to honour and respect myself.

If you have a sense of shame about aspects of your body do tap on that:

Even though I feel shame about _______, I'm ready to release this shame right now.

Some straightforward affirmations while tapping can also help:

I'm OK with my skin.
I choose to love my hair. etc.

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Bush fire crisis - use EFT

As the bushfire crisis in Victoria continues, the death toll rises, and scenes of devastation, heartbreak and tragedy fill our screens, it is really important to monitor our own emotional state. Going into grief, upset and anger, while understandable, does not serve either us or the people in Victoria. It uses up our energy and does not support those people who are suffering so dreadfully.

The best way of supporting them is to keep ourselves emotionally strong and to donate goods and money - at this time they are in need of basic survival supplies. In case you don't have the links here is the Red Cross link www.redcross.org.au. At Our Community website you can learn how to donate everything from mobile phone chargers (people left with their phones but obviously without the chargers) to blankets - www.ourcommunity.com.au.

While you are watching, reading or listening to news of what is happening please remember to tap. You can do the continuous tapping on your fingers and if you are particularly upset by something then do some full rounds of tapping on it. You may have a issue with the fact that some of the fires were deliberately lit - if this is so then tap on the anger. Whatever is upsetting you then release it by doing some rounds of tapping.

It is also very important to tap with your children as they can be really traumatised themselves by the frightening and heartrending images they see. Either encourage them to tap themselves if they are old enough, and do it with them, or on them, if they are younger.


If you have any questions or need some help with this please contact me at margaret@tangibleresults.com.au.

Asking

I use this very simple asking exercise with clients. They give me something of theirs and then have to ask for it back. If they don't ask with integrity they don't get it back and have to ask again. It's fascinating how this simple exercise creates hell on earth! To say that many people do not like or enjoy this exercise is an understatement - and I can still remember the time I first did it about 25 years ago!

Why is it so hard for us to just ask - especially for what's already ours in the first place? Well I already had two clients today who feel they will be annoying or a burden if they ask for something. They don't want to upset or interrupt people. In other words they don't think their needs are important or worthy to be met. It's a self-esteem issue - which most issues boil down to anyway.

So if this triggers off an "aha" in you, get tapping on not being worthy, important or deserving. Affirm your right to ask for what you want and need.


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EFT Book Extract

Here is a short unedited extract about creating space in your life from my upcoming book entitled "The End of All Problems: How to Use EFT to Support Spiritual Growth". Take a look at what is happening in your own life and tap along to the suggestions.

Click here to view extract.

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Using EFT for First Aid

One of my clients reported she'd been out with a friend who suffered a severe panic attack at a driving situation they'd been in. They arrived at the club and her friend was shaking so badly she couldn't even put a drink to her mouth. I asked my client if she'd tapped on her friend and to my total non-surprise she answered "no". Why wasn't I surprised? Because so often people who are EFT enthusiasts just plain forget to use it. Yes, yes, that includes me as well!

However I have been using it quite a bit for first aid. I had a couple of sun spots burnt off my face and they really hurt on the way home so I tapped away, grateful that I had something to help. I seldom get headaches but out of the blue one came on while I was out - oh, those fingertips are so handy - I was able to offload it in a few minutes. And I ALWAYS use it at the dentist, especially when I've opted to not have an injection!

So remember, when you are out and about, you might have nothing else on hand but your hands - so use them to tap your way out of pain, shock, anxiety or whatever else comes up. Even if you are not involved in what is happening - say you are a witness to a car crash, -you can use tapping to keep yourself balanced and steady. In any situation where shock may be involved it's important to tap as soon as possible - EFT is a great remedy for shock and it may be possible to actually prevent shock from coming on.


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